Introduction: understanding poly breakups
The most common non-poly causes causes of poly breakups
Sexual problems cause lots of monogamous breakups
Money issues that can doom both monogamous and open relationships
Domestic issues and conflicts that lead to breaking up
Incompatible needs for intimacy and autonomy
Problems one partner brings into the relationship : addictions, untreated mental health conditions, and anger issues
Breakups where polyamory plays some part, but is not the primary cause
"Poly" causes for poly breakups
The most common cause of poly breakups : picking the wrong partners
Different strokes for different folks : when partners want incompatible models of open relationship
When poor time and energy management is the culprit
When jealousy is the root cause of a breakup
Self care is the first step to surviving a breakup
Grieve your losses and learn whatever lessons you can from this relationship
Sustaining your other relationship(s) throughout the breakup
Handling the "public relations" of a poly breakup
